It's a time-honored tactic. To hold a man's interest a woman has to play hard to get. The question for most women is, just how do you manage to balance getting him interested in you with playing hard to get? It's a delicate balance. Keep reading for some ideas.
Men are easily bored
If you make yourself too available, a man will eventually lose interest in chasing you. When you are always there and available to him every time he calls, he'll become bored and move on to a more challenging relationship. If you want to keep him interested, you need to find ways to make yourself interesting and mysterious.
Don't be available to him every time he calls. Keep yourself busy so that you can honestly say you have another commitment if he asks you out. Just don't make yourself so unavailable that he gives up and finds someone who is a little more accessible. It's a delicate balance.
Timing is everything
Don't reveal all when you first meet, even though you find yourself strongly attracted to him. It is best to leave him thinking of you as a little mysterious - someone he has to work to get to know. This works to pique his interest and make him want to pursue you.
You may exchange phone numbers with him, but it is important to let him be the first to call. Men still like to be the one in pursuit, as old-fashioned as that seems.When he does call, go ahead and accept a date if you don't have anything else planned. Just don't cancel other plans to go out with him. And never tell him you have the whole weekend free even if you do. Make him wonder what else you have going on in your life.
Keep it casual
Keep your first few dates casual and low key. Explore subjects of mutual interest in your conversations, but don't ever discuss past relationships. And never, never bring up the subject of marriage - on the first date or at any time before he does.
Keep the mystery going
The real key to playing hard to get effectively is to keep a little mystery going. That will entice him to keep trying to find out more about you. The longer you can keep him a little off balance, the more interested he will be in pursuing the relationship. This is the way to play hard to get and make it pay off for you.